Have you ever had one of those times where you’ve just ‘clicked’ with someone? I had one of those moments today, which happened quite unexpectedly and I just so happened to think that it’d make a nice blog, mainly because I’d have to think about what happened as I wrote it down. I’m not a big person for remembering absolutely everything at the best of times, so experimenting by writing it in a blog seems like an interesting and perhaps useful idea. I know, It’s a bit “Ooh look at me and my sad but interesting life” but isn’t that what blogging is all about? Writing random stuff down so other people can read it and realise that other people are going through similar things as them.
*Points at the point of the situation/blog.* It just goes to show that some things change stuff in ways you don’t expect. I didn’t go out of my way to make things happen, which admitedly has happened ‘one time’ in the past(please don’t read that as ‘all the time’), it was just a random occurence. I was going to meet a friend in a cafe, since I was in town that morning anyway, and I happened to notice(hear) that my pal was talking to someone whilst I was getting my first coffee of the day, from the lady at the counter. So, with Coffee in hand(and cake(in other hand(because otherwise it’d be messy/melted))) I walked over and sat down at one of the tables nearby. I didn’t want to interupt a conversation, since I prefer to be polite or not there in the first place. Anyway, by chance my friend was talking to one of my many aquaintances, who he’d sat near to when he came in to wait for me.
For your information, my version of the word ‘Aquaintances’ describes someone who is not a close friend(most of which I can count on one hand), nor is it someone that I feel ‘friendly’ towards. I’m not talking about enemies either. Basically, these are the people that appear on the edge of my radar, that since I’m in several different social groups, I could be in the same room as, but not pay them that much attention. This is not the same a Facebook Friends, a term which I rarely use, because it’s really inacurate. Even though I’ve been cutting down recently, a lot of those people that I’m ‘friends’ with on facebook are just there because I didn’t have anything else to do at the time. A lot of them I don’t socialise with ‘ever’ and some, even worse, are just there because we play the same addictive game/s on facebook.
So I’m sitting there talking to my friend and one of my female aquaintances(I don’t like giving names on these pages that anyone can have access to) and after an hour or so he goes home. I stay chatting to my aquaintance(sod my rule, let’s call her “Ms L” for short) for another hour or so. We had a lot to talk about, because even though we knew of each other, we’d never got much past the occasional hello’s and goodbye’s that happen amongst larger groups of people. So we began to talk about this and that, and occasionally the other, and as we talked I began to feel that I didn’t want it to stop. I would say that we clicked quite early on in the conversation and we both were interested in what the other had to say. We had things in common too, which was strange, because my initial ‘attraction’, for want of a better word, was already present and it just seemed to make it even more fated to happen.
Then another friend popped in, randomly, after just returning from a daytrip to see a band or something and the three of us continued to chat for a while. After the while had come and gone, Ms L had wandered off to the toilet and I went to get another drink. We both returned to find my mate engrossed in his phone, and since he was busy with that, me and Ms L continued with our conversation. We started to talk other random stuff and started hypothesizing about why burping and farting are handled differently. My point was that it was the same bodily function for farting as it was for burping, and to quote a term I’d heard elsewhere, face-farting should be percieved in the same way as the stuff that comes out of your arse. It was at some point that my male friend decided to intervene, challenge us that our conversation, that he wasn’t a part of, was socially unacceptable because of the scientific terms we were using(with occasional commonly used slang for those words). The setting for the conversation was in a room full of adults, most of which were out of earshot, with absolutely no chance that a kid could overhear anything we were saying(none in cafe, with no doors or windows open and not talking loudly). So I changed the subject slightly, even though we were within our rights to talk about whatever we wanted. But then he continued in the same way and not wanting to say anything that either me or he would regret later, I walked out. I had invested hours in the conversation with Ms L, had lots of fun doing it too, but all I wanted to do was get away from my friend who was being saying that it was being getting irked because we were talking in a long conversation about something that he’d only heard one or two words of.
So, needing to get away, I went shopping. But barely got inside the first shop when Ms L came bounding up to me, after seeing me walk out, she did the same. I was touched that this person, who I’d barely spoken to before today, felt such a an afinity that they came after me to check if I was alright. So, drinks were mentioned and we toddled off to a bar together.
I’d love to say, round about now, that one thing led to another and we ended up back at her place, but I can’t, because it never happened. We chatted more, with pints of real ale starting to strip us of our verbal inhibitions and, she started first, began to tell each other of our bad relationships in the past. The reason that nothing happened, even though I thought it ‘might’[, was not because she wasn’t drunk enough, but it was because she’d just come out of a relationship and was still pining for the guy in question, even though he’d told her in no uncertain terms that nothing would ever happen between them again. Not even friendship, which potentially hit her the hardest. That’s the problem with dating friends. Do you take the risk to lose them forever, just to potentially have something more special between you?
So, with empty glasses and hungry bellies, we mooched on over to the next pub, that did cheap food too. No booths were available, like she’d originally wanted and so we sat next to one of the windows in the corner. The poster on the window was for two steaks, jacket potatoes and a bottle of wine for £15, as a Valentines special, which just so happened to begin on that day. We tried our best to pick other stuff from the menu, but opted instead to eat slabs of cow, which was very very nice.
The food was great, the company I was in was awesome and we were still chatting away without any plan to stop anytime soon. The wine was making us a little tiddly too, which is the great thing with the right wine, it’s really easy to drink/quaff and it gets you pissed really quickly. I’d occasionally try to bring up my ‘early’ feelings about the situation, but she wasn’t having any of it. It just wasn’t the reason why either of us was there. It was just nice to talk to someone for a change, find out that you have things in common and then not fuck it up by sleeping with them straight away. Still, I had a really great time and I’m still amazed that we didn’t run out of things to say, mainly because I met her that day, shortly before midday and it was now, as we were going our different ways, 9pm.